Friday, 19 February 2016

Acceptance

A friend had posted this meme on Facebook the other day.





It struck a chord with me because the ongoing process of accepting has been an important part of helping me cope with living with a chronic illness for so long.

When I was young I didn't have concrete plans for how my life would go, but I would envision myself in the future, and never once did I envision a future where I would be incapacitated for years. 
I waltzed through my teenage years and early twenties taking for granted the body that allowed me to walk, run and dance whenever I wanted. I worked, I served, I played and lived life as fully as I knew how. 

Overnight it changed and once I was fed up of mourning I realised that I had to adjust to a new life.

Accepting things as they are is hard especially when it seems like you're accepting something that nobody else has to accept.  It's far easier to compare your life to those around you and feel hard done by.



However, acceptance becomes easier if we persist with it and realise, as the quote says above, that there is a way through it.

I find it important that I don't spend all day 'logged on' to social media. Although this is my main link to a social life, it isn't real life and seeing everyone's successes leaves me demoralised.

One of the hardest things I have to do, but imperative to managing my condition, and to accepting my circumstances, is to live within my limitations. If I boom and bust (which happens more than I'd like to admit) the physical payback makes me resentful of my limitations again. When I pace myself and live within my limitations I feel physically better and can cope better emotionally.

Then, for me, it is a matter of changing perspective. I think it's a case of losing that sense of entitlement to an easy life, and getting rid of the idea that other people have an easier or better life. I don't know of one person that isn't going through one trial or another. We can't compare them because we all have our crosses to bear.

I love this quote I found here

Of course there is no formula for success except, perhaps, an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.” ~Arthur Rubinstein

I would class a successful life as a HAPPY life, and I'm learning the hard way that happiness is a choice. We cannot be happy if we don't accept our circumstances beyond our control. As the Mindfulness Jar tweeted

'Make the most of now - that is all there ever is'

What do you think? Has acceptance been easy for you? Share your experiences in the comments below.