Thursday, 25 February 2016

9 ways I cope with anxiety

Some days I'm riddled with anxiety. For a long time I didn't know why I was anxious, it was just a general feeling that something was going to go wrong. But this week, as I've been pondering on these feelings I realised that sometimes it wasn't that something was going to go wrong, more like I was going to cause something to go wrong.

I have a chronic illness and a little bit of responsibility. It's so hard to muster all the strength and concentration I need to fulfill that responsibility that I worry I'm going to get something wrong. 

The silly thing is that worrying about it is exacerbating my ill health and more likely to cause my worries to come true!

Although I struggle to make my anxiety disappear, here are 9 ways I have found to help me cope with it: 

Recognising and accepting that I feel anxious. 

• Giving myself a pep talk: to be brave and to go out of my comfort zone. 

• Changing the negative thoughts to positive ones: from "I can't" to "I can" and realising that the negative thoughts aren't fact.

• Being kind to myself and allowing mistakes to happen. Remembering mistakes are good things if we learn from them. 

Deep breathing. I breathe in and let it flow to my belly to the count of 5, then out and count to five.

• Being organised and allowing myself plenty of time to do whatever it is I need to do. 

• Listening to music I love. Any genre, but it's usually something I can sing to. Singing is good for calming the soul ... Regardless of whether you can hold a tune or not! 

• Setting myself goals throughout the day or week, that I can achieve. This helps me to feel positive about accomplishing something. 

Prayer, is a big one for me. I pray a lot when I'm anxious. However, it's the regular communication with a higher power that enables me to develop an eternal perspective (the bigger picture) which steadies my soul and helps me to realise that my anxieties have no basis in reality.

What's been your experience? Share what helps you calm your anxieties in the comments below 🙂